Self-care for Parents

It takes an immense amount of energy and creativity to take care of someone who is on the Autism spectrum. Research often explores the challenges faced by parents and caregivers providing care to individuals with Autism. However, it is important to note that every person with Autism is unique. Not comparing challenges can be crucial for caregiver well-being.

Take Care of Yourself

Facts surrounding an Autism diagnosis speak to the need for parents to take care of themselves. A diagnosis of Autism can be overwhelming and upsetting, and it is important to recognize those feelings. Remember HALT – hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. If you are experiencing these feelings, make sure to take some time for yourself.

Join a Support Group: After your child receives an Autism diagnosis, your current friendships might change. Parents of neurotypical children often will not understand your experience. Know that you will make additional friends in the Autism community who can support you and understand your journey. Call ASGA’s Helpline, (330) 940-1441, to inquire about locations and times of parent-led support groups. Joining a support group with other parents of children with Autism can help you feel less alone and simply talking to people who understand and empathize with your struggles can feel good.

Practice self-care: Practicing self-care might seem indulgent but do not underestimate how powerful it can be. If you have a busy schedule, you can start small. Take a 10-minute walk in the morning or soak in the bathtub for 15 minutes at the end of a long day.  Build mindful time into your life.

Ask for help: Don’t be embarrassed to reach out to your support system to ask for help. Family, friends, neighbors or responsible teens can help with babysitting when you need some time for yourself or when you are investigating resources that can better equip you to care for your child. This may mean letting others care for your child so you can take a break.

Prioritize Your Relationship:

Autism can present unique challenges in relationships. Studies indicate that couples raising a child with Autism face similar divorce rates as the general population, yet they often encounter heightened marital conflicts.

Given the differing ways men and women respond to an Autism diagnosis, carve out time for each other amidst the demands. Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, and caregivers if needed. Share the daily responsibilities equitably to avoid burdening one partner excessively; mutual support is crucial. Effective communication is paramount; even amid disagreements, listen to your partner’s perspective on what’s best for your child.

While there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to navigating a relationship when Autism is involved, maintaining honest and open dialogue is essential. Both parents share the goal of ensuring the best outcomes for their child with Autism. A strong relationship benefits everyone involved. Take proactive steps together, formulate plans, and learn to compromise, fostering mutual understanding and appreciation for your child’s strengths while addressing their needs effectively across different settings.