Do I Disclose My Diagnosis?

It is important to consider when and if you will disclose your ASD diagnosis. Should your employer know? Your romantic interest? Friends? Remember, in all cases, disclosure is a personal choice, and there is no law obligating you to disclose your disability.  However, to be eligible for the accommodations under the American Disabilities Act, OOD and Social Security, some level of disclosure is necessary.  Once disclosed, though, that information legally must be kept confidential in the workplace, places of higher learning, housing options and medical environments.  

When an autistic adult is considering whether to disclose their diagnosis, it’s important to weigh personal, social, and practical factors. The question is not only whether to disclose, but how much to disclose. To arrive at a decision involves analyzing your goals for disclosure, as well as understanding the many possible outcomes — positive and negative. Here are some key things to consider:

1. Understand Your Reasons for Disclosing
  • Access to Support: Disclosure can help you receive accommodations at work, school, or in healthcare.
  • Authenticity: Sharing your diagnosis may allow you to be more yourself and reduce the need for masking.
  • Advocacy: Some choose to disclose to raise awareness or support others in the autistic community.
2. Weigh the Pros and Cons
  • Potential Benefits:
    • Increased understanding and acceptance from others
    • Tailored support and reasonable adjustments
    • Relief from hiding or masking behaviors
  • Possible Risks:
    • Misunderstanding or disbelief, especially if you don’t fit stereotypes
    • Stigma or discrimination
    • Changes in how others treat you
3. Decide Who, When, and How
  • You don’t have to tell everyone. Disclosure can be selective and situational.
  • Consider:
    • Who needs to know (e.g., employer, close friends, healthcare provider)
    • When it feels safe and relevant
    • How to communicate it—whether casually, formally, or with supporting information
4. Prepare for Mixed Reactions
  • People may respond with support, curiosity, or misunderstanding.
  • Having a trusted person or support network can help you process reactions and reinforce your confidence.
5. Seek Guidance and Support
  • Post-diagnostic support can help you navigate disclosure decisions.
  • Therapists and peer groups may offer strategies and reassurance.